The Best Advice for Coping with the Holidays

There are no advent police. There are no family traditions enforcers. There are no report cards given on the kind of memories you’re making. Sometimes doing less is the best gift a tired mom can give her family. Simple. Simple. Simple. Keep it as simple as works for you. And if all you do is give everyone a cup of hot chocolate now and again – including yourself – you are winning. ~ Lisa-Jo Baker

ChristmasTree With SnowflakesLisa-Jo Baker gives wonderful advice for moms on her Surprised by Motherhood blog, but these jewels should be snatched up by everyone, not just by mothers.

“Keep it Simple” is a maxim we often hear but usually ignore. It’s one piece of advice we should repeat to ourselves as often as necessary during hectic holidays no matter the time of year.

Lisa-Jo also offers The Tired Mothers Holiday Creed “for the days we are running on empty… For the days we’re sure anyone else would do this job better. Host this family more calmly. Have a house more presentable.” Here are seven of my favorite points from the list of twenty. You’ll also find a printable version at the end of her post.

  • I shall accept that a messy house at peace is better than an immaculate house tied up in knots.
  • I shall remember that guests will only feel as comfortable in my home as I feel in my own skin.
  • I shall embrace the fact that in becoming a mom I traded perfect for a house full of real.
  • I shall pause between preparations to savor the celebrations.
  • I shall remember that hospitality is about opening the door, not about how fancy the furniture, decor or dishes.
  • I shall treat myself with the same grace I offer everyone else.
  • I shall not be intimidated by how the holidays, the turkey, the tree or the memories “should” be celebrated but love the people I’m celebrating with instead.

What advice do you follow (or wish you did) for making holidays more enjoyable?


Image (Christmas Tree With Snowflakes) courtesy of jannoon028 at FreeDigitalPhotos.net.

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7-in-1 Award Nomination

I’m honorereaderappreciationaward2_1d to be nominated by author and blogger Diana Jackson for the 7-in-1 Award – a collection of seven shiny awards all rolled into one.

The blog-o-sphere is full of great people with wonderful stories to share, and discovering these gems is one of the best parts of the blogging experience.

cracking-crispmouse-award-sammy-cat_1Last year my Internet travels brought me to A Selection of Reflections where Diana posts real stories about real people. Her articles consist of interviews and guest posts, as well as tales taken from the life of Norman Campbell. I’m glad to have discovered Diana’s website and grateful for the opportunities she’s given me to be one of her guest bloggers.

Here are thshineon1_1e rules for the Seven Awards:
1. Display the logo on your sidebar
2. Link back to the person who nominated you
3. State 7 things about yourself
4. Nominate 15 (or so) bloggers for this award
5. Notify the nominees of their nominations

7 Things About Me
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1. I climbed telephone poles in the Army.
2. I’ve dressed the dead.
3. I love cats and think dogs are a bit silly.
4. My least favorite thing to do is exercise.
5. My favorite desserts involve chocolate.
6. I think a rainy day is the best kind of day.
7. I’m a terrible cook, but I love to eat.

My Nominations:
Many of the blogs I follow combine encouragement
with wrthe-versatile-blogger-award_1iting advice, and most of my nominations for the 7-in-1 Award reflect that.

♦  The Gray-Haired Hipster: living proof that you CAN teach an old broad new tricks!
♦  Snapshots: Writing Your Story – thoughts on words, writing, and storytelling with Alice Carney
♦  Kathy Pooler: hope matters; we are all enriched when we share our smost-influential-blogger-e1364230844577_1tories 
♦  777 Peppermint Place: from writing posts to snippets from ordinary life
♦  Patricia Woods: encouraging practical solutions
♦  Lisa-Jo Baker: surprised by motherhood; believes motherhood should come with its own super hero cape

♦  Kathi Lipp’s Project Blog: humor, hope, how-to’s; fun and simple steps to better living

♦  The Procrastiwriter: because you could be writing right now

♦  Kristen Lamb: sharing about writing and life; she reminds us We Are Not Alone (WANA)

♦  Positive Writer: create work that matters

♦  Writer’s First Aid with Kristi Holl: to ease the pains of the writing life and help make your writing dreams come true

Thank you, fellow bloggers, for your encouragement on the journey of life and writing. I appreciate the time you take out of your days to share your stories and musings, and so many lessons learned.